In my practice, I see a wide range of feeding challenges. These may stem from medical, sensory, emotional, or psychological difficulties, and no two families' experiences are the same. Yet, there is one common thread that ties them all together—the emotions parents feel are remarkably similar.
Whether your child is navigating a medical condition, sensory sensitivities, or psychological aversions to food, the experience can bring a wave of emotions: grief, frustration, guilt, sadness, or even a sense of loss for the mealtimes you imagined as a family.
These emotions are valid. They are a reflection of how much you care, of the dreams you had for connection and joy around the table, and of the immense love you feel for your child. It’s okay to feel this way—and it’s okay to want things to change.
Grieving the Mealtime You Imagined
When feeding isn’t straightforward, it can feel like something fundamental has been taken away. For many parents, mealtimes represent more than just eating; they’re a time to connect, share stories, and bond as a family.
When those moments are filled with stress, refusals, or tears, it’s natural to grieve the loss of what you thought this season of life would look like. You might find yourself mourning the idyllic picture of family dinners you always hoped for—and that’s okay.
Acknowledging this grief is the first step toward moving forward. Suppressing these emotions often amplifies them, whereas recognising them allows you to start reframing the experience.
Why Your Emotions Matter in Feeding Therapy
Your emotions are not just a side effect of your child’s feeding challenges—they’re a part of the process. When you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, those feelings can unintentionally shape the mealtime atmosphere.
Children, especially those with feeding difficulties, are incredibly attuned to the emotions of the adults around them. If they sense tension or pressure, it can reinforce their own anxiety around food. That’s why managing your emotions isn’t just self-care—it’s a key part of supporting your child’s progress.
Taking care of yourself allows you to approach mealtimes with patience and calm. And when you’re calm, you’re better equipped to help your child feel safe and supported at the table.
Practical Ways to Cope with Feeding-Related Emotions
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Give yourself permission to feel sad, frustrated, or even angry. Naming your emotions can help you process them instead of letting them build up.
2. Practice Self-Compassion
You are not alone, and you are not to blame. Feeding challenges are complex, and every family’s journey is unique. Be kind to yourself—you’re doing your best.
3. Create a Calm Mealtime Environment
Try a few deep breaths before meals to centre yourself.
Focus on creating a positive atmosphere rather than pressuring your child to eat.
4. Celebrate Small Wins
Progress in feeding therapy often comes in small steps. Celebrate those moments, no matter how small they may seem. Whether it’s your child touching a new food or sitting at the table longer than usual, these are all building blocks toward larger goals.
5. Seek Support
Whether it’s from a feeding specialist, a trusted friend, or a support group, sharing your journey can help lighten the emotional load. Talking through your feelings with someone who understands can make all the difference.
Reframing the Feeding Journey
It’s important to reframe your expectations. While your family mealtime might look different from what you’d imagined, it doesn’t mean it can’t be meaningful.
Instead of focusing on the struggle, try to look for the moments of connection you can create. Whether it’s sitting together, laughing at a silly food moment, or working through challenges side by side, these are the memories that matter most.
Join My Webinar This Week
If this resonates with you, I’d love to invite you to my upcoming webinar on coping with feeding challenges. Together, we’ll explore strategies to manage emotions and create a calmer, more positive mealtime experience.
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You’re Not Alone in This
Feeding challenges can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to face them alone. Every step you take—whether it’s reading this blog, seeking support, or simply showing up for another mealtime—is a step toward positive change.
For more personalised help, I offer a range of feeding support services to guide you through your child’s unique journey. From practical strategies to emotional reassurance, I’m here to help.
Learn more about how I can support you: Feeding Support Services
Remember, progress doesn’t have to mean perfection. It’s about finding what works for your family and creating an environment where both you and your child can feel safe, supported, and loved.

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